How to Make Up After a Fight

We all fall out from time to time but were you aware you can learn useful tactics to help you fall back ‘in’?

Here are a few tips for putting things right:

1.    Try to think ‘beneath’ the argument. Were you fighting about the topic itself or is there an underlying cause such as feeling insecure, unappreciated, jealous etc?

2.    Were you at fault? Did you over-react? Act defensive? Did your partner? Try to identify what escalated the argument and learn to avoid the same behavior in the future.

3.    Forget rights and wrongs and apologies. It’s not about a score sheet or forcing your spouse to say ‘sorry’. Keep the focus on resolving the issue and moving forward. Don’t get hung up in the whole blame game.

4.    When you argue try to remember to keep calm and speak softly. The way you speak affects one another. A calm conversation is much more likely to get things resolved.

5.    Learn from the argument and try to implement changes so that you don’t fall into the trap of repeatedly having the same unresolved argument.

Learning to live together is not easy and couples of all ages can find that they have become caught up in a cycle of fighting. Learning the strategies and tips to keep your marriage healthy can have a dramatic affect on your happiness. If you want to take steps to save your marriage today make sure you use the valuable ‘marriage-saving’ resources on the market, designed by experts for everyday folk. 

5 Tips for a Successful Marriage

Keeping a marriage strong is all about developing healthy habits. No we don’t mean eating brown bread and lentils – a healthy marriage is all about getting the basics right!

Here are our Five Tips to keep your marriage strong.

1.    Aretha got it right when she sang about R.E.S.P.E.C.T. Having respect for each other will keep things positive. When things are tough it gives you tolerance; when things are going well it makes you swell with pride.

2.    Time. Good marriages don’t happen by accident. Successful partnerships are fostered when both parties give each other adequate time and attention. Make sure you regularly sit down and eat together (with the TV turned off!), go out on a ‘date’ or share an activity you both love.

3.    But what good is time without communication? Talk, talk and then talk some more. Tell them your news, your views, the things that made you laugh, the things you’re finding tough. But remember, communication is two-way; you need to listen to them talk too!

4.    Say sorry! We’re all human. If you get it wrong say ‘sorry’ and move on. Don’t let your pride elongate arguments. Your own ability to apologize will also encourage your partner to do likewise.

5.    Compromise. Healthy marriages are made up of couples that talk, listen and then go forward together. This may involve one partner getting their own way or in both partners finding a middle path. The ability to compromise or find win-win solutions is a great asset to any marriage.

Adopting these five healthy habits will go a long way to improving your marriage.

If you need help to develop healthy habits in your marriage, find out more tips on how to save your marriage today.

Open Up Your Heart

Is your marriage a shadow of what it once was?
Has your relationship lost its sparkle?

If you are spending your time arguing as opposed to enjoying each other’s company, your marriage could be taking a downward turn.

However, all is not lost. If your relationship is on the rocks it’s not too late to take action to save your marriage.

Talk it Through

Don’t settle for a mediocre or unfulfilling marriage. Set aside an evening when you both have some spare time. Make every effort to ensure the lead up to your time together is not fraught – avoid arguments and keep yourself upbeat.

When the time is right, open up your heart to your partner. Let them know how you feel and that you want to put every effort into rekindling your romance.

Encourage your partner to share their feelings as well as their ideas on how to put things right.

Give each other time to speak and avoid being defensive or getting into arguments. Remember, you want to look forwards and not back.

It is only by getting to the core of your problems that you can start to remedy things. 

Think About 'Me' not 'We'

One way to save your marriage is to think about the pair of you as individuals.

If you always consider yourself as a couple then you are not addressing your own personal fulfilment as individuals. Everyone knows that two contended people are far more likely to make a happy couple than two unhappy individuals.

This blog is designed to get you thinking about the positive steps you can take to get your mariage back on track. Sometimes you need help and advice, other times you need to take a completely fresh approach.

Find The New You

Refocus your efforts initially on finding your own personal happiness; look at activities that help to keep you confident, calm, happy or challenged. Seek out new opportunities or old friends. Look for adventure or relaxation. Identify what would add to your day to day happiness and make an effort to reintroduce it into your life.

This might seem selfish but it may just be a tactic that helps you to approach your marriage in a totally different way. Read future posts for more tips.